The One?

I had been asked lots of times by well-intentioned friends who want to play match-makers [and by some who are simply, and annoyingly, curious] on what I look for in a guy, and for the life of me I couldn’t specify the qualities I like! Does that mean I’m losing faith and interest on the male species?

Nah, I don’t think so. I had never been the type of person, even during my hopeless romantic stage, to have that so called ideal guy. The ideal guy for me is just that – an idea. Sure, somehow you’re going to meet a guy who may have all the qualities that you are looking for – he’s tall and handsome and smart and manly – definitely your dreamboat. But then you would find out that he had one quality that you definitely abhor – like a stinking body odor – and your dreamboat capsizes into oblivion.

Of course, that’s simplifying matters. My point is, we sometimes get fixated on the idea of “The One” that we end up falling in love with the idea of him being the one and not with the person himself. And we get so hung up on the idea that a person should be the right one when we don’t even consider if we are the “right one” for that person. I mean, you don’t just go searching for someone who meets this and that criteria. Or worse, trying to mold the person to meet your criteria. It’s like those block shapes that kids play with. First, you select a piece that you think will fit the pattern, and try another if the first one didn’t fit until you get the right one. But you don’t push or reshape the piece you have selected just to fit the mold.

[Isn’t that the lamest analogy, or what?!]

Being in a relationship is complicated enough; overanalyzing whether a friend/ date/ some random stranger could be “The One” is pushing things a little too far. The fun is in discovering whether you can make good music together [I don’t mean that in a sleazy way!]. Maybe this point doesn’t help too much, but if the person is right for you, you will know. No wordy explanations needed. The fact that you’re taking pains to explain why the two of you are or should be good together means… you’re really not so good together.

Anyhoo, I'll indulge you and play the game. So here - I want a guy who will fascinate me. It might be too vague a description, but for now it will do. No, I’m not looking for someone who’s consciously being mysterious, or who has a very extreme hobby/passion, or the misunderstood but sensitive rebel. I just want someone who will… fascinate me. Damn, I’m really not good at explaining myself, am I?

And finally, I’m waiting for that guy [say it with me!] with that slow, sweet smile. cooooooooorny…

Top 5 On Friday - Week 91

Top 5 song lyrics that best describe you.

**Tindahan Ni Aling Nena – Eraserheads

"Tindahan ni Aling Nena / parang isang kwentong pampelikula / mura na at sari sari pa ang itinitinda / pero ang tanging nais ko ay di nabibili ng pera"

I used the song title [replacing Nena with Dyela] in my earlier blogs, including the still active but not-exactly-updated Friendster blog. I would like to point out that the lyrics I used in my blog “pero ang tanging nais ko ay di nabibili ng pera…” had been, ehem, controversial. Those lyrics in fact do describe me, that what I really wanted can’t be bought by money, it’s just that that thing isn’t what some think it is.


**Angels Or Devils - Dishwalla

"The angels they burn inside of us / are we ever / are we ever gonna learn to fly / the devils they burn inside of us / are we ever gonna come back down / come around / I’ll always worry about the things that could make us cold"

I’m an angel and a devil. Enough said! [this really is a nice song, though.]


**Unwell – Matchbox 20

"I’m not crazy, I’m just a little unwell / I know, right now you can’t tell / but stay a while and maybe then you’ll see / a different side of me / I’m not crazy, I’m just a little impaired / I know, right now you don’t care / but soon enough you’re gonna think of me / and how I used to be me"

Just like what Rob Thomas, my boyfriend, said in one of their concerts, it’s ok to be a little fucked up sometimes.


**When You Were Young – The Killers

"He doesnt look a thing like Jesus/ but he talks like a gentleman / like you imagined / when you were young..."

"... and sometimes you close your eyes / and see the place where you used to live / when you were young..."

I know there are other songs that more appropriately describe then and now scenarios, but right now this is one of my fave songs so I’m including this on my list.


**Lost In You – Ash

"Staring at the wall / I sink inside / I think about it all / I get caught up in my life / I can't think straight / because it's tearing up my mind / I feel like I'm on fire, nothing I can do / I'm troubled with doubt / though I know it is not true / and it's times like these / when I'm dying to speak to you / dying to get through / dying to get through / the more that I think, how I need you / the more that I think, the more it seems true / and now it means more / than I ever meant it to / ever meant it to"

Because I’m more romantic than I care to admit!

Friday's Feast 113

Appetizer
What is your favorite herb or spice?

Since I'm into spicy foods, I love black and chili peppers. I also like my adobo to be very garlic-ky.


Soup
Name a song you like but haven't heard in a long time.

Actually, I heard that song yesterday. I was actually deliberately avoiding hearing that song [the title of which I won’t bother to mention!] because, well, long story. I didn’t really answer the question, did I?


Salad
If you were to take just one minute to write down as many things as you can think of that you need (not want) to do, approximately how many things would there be?

I stopped at 10. Thinking about the things I need to do is giving me the headache...


Main Course
Tell something interesting about one of your family members (nothing scandalous, please, just something unique).

It’s really not that unique – but my eldest brother doesn’t like to be called “daddy” or “tatay” by his son. His son [my nephew] calls him by his first name. Also, my brother likes to download sports theme/pump up songs and wrestling entrance themes to his mp3 player. Probably his way of motivating himself hahaha!

Dessert
What's the latest you've ever stayed awake?

I had watched a rock gig that lasted until about past 3am – and I had to go to the office in a few hours! I also used to have insomnia so I’m no stranger to staying awake for very long hours and in some instance had to go to school without some sleep. Yep, definitely unhealthy.

F*** That Stupid Song!

At some point in your life you need to let go - but you find out you’re not yet prepared to do just that. So you try to cling on, you fight for your place, even if it means hurting yourself even more.

You realize that sometimes the most painful stage is when you stubbornly held on. It is also the point when you are most scared.

But once you let go, once you take the plunge, is the time when you set yourself free. You never really leave your fears behind. Instead, you use it to propel you. In the process, you learned to live with what scares you most.

This could happen when a relationship ends, but it could as well be the same sort of experience you go through when you start falling - in love.

Yosi Break

I sort of get now the attraction of smoking. The urge to smoke is stronger when the people you’re with do it. Not that they are pressuring me, but it kind of gets lonely to do nothing but wait for them while they finish their smoke. And you think peer pressure is just for teens. I guess there’s always that need to conform, to belong, whether you're a kid or an adult [adult daw?!]


On a different but relevant matter, why is it that some are surprised to know that I enjoy going to bars and watch rock gigs and yet don’t smoke or drink at all?

Dumbledore's Army

This pic from the upcoming movie Harry Potter and The Order of The Phoenix is making me go squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

(again, please bear with me if I had to redirect you to another page to view the pic. I even tried Specialis Revelio to make this work, but nothing doing. Blogger really hates me.)

Can you feel how wickedly excited I am about the upcoming movie?! Wait, scratch that – I’m wickedly, shamelessly, wantonly excited about the 5th movie and the 7th book! squeee!!! If Harry’s desire of making giggling illegal does happen, I’d be guilty as hell, but the heck, I'm giggling and grinning like mad after seeing the pic. More of this, anything, to satisfy this addict!

I like OoTP as it introduced two very interesting characters: Luna Lovegood and Dolores Umbridge. Luna for me is cool, in a weird sort of way. I don't know why, but I really, really love that scene in Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince when Harry asked Luna to go with him to Slughorn's party and Peeves heard it and he said: "Potter luuurves Loony!". No, I'm not a Harry-Luna shipper [I'm not a shipper at all!] but I always get a good laugh whenever I read that! [and please don't ask me how many times I have read the books. I've lost count.]

Ah, Umbridge. Nasty, foul, sweet Umbridge. There's so much satisfaction in seeing her get her comeuppance. Hahaha! Schadenfreude! Her characterization was J.K. Rowling's awesome way of telling us, in the words of Sirius Black, "... the world is not divided into good people and Death Eaters."

I hope there’s truth to the speculations that the final book will be released on July 7, 2007. How cool is that? Book 7 released on 7/07/07! Anyway, OoTP the movie will be shown in US and UK theaters on July 13, 2007. No word yet on its Philippine premiere, but I heard that the movie will be released in IMAX theater, so yeah! More reasons to be excited! The sixth movie, Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince will be released on November 21, 2008. Alan Rickman (Professor Snape to you) will be devilishly awesome in this movie!

Since the topic here is Harry Potter, I want to mention here a question J.K. Rowling herself raised on her site: Why did Dumbledore have James’ invisibility cloak at the time of James’ death, given that Dumbledore could make himself invisible without a cloak? I’m kind of tamad to post my theory on this one, as it’s kind of long and also includes my own follow up questions! But to fellow Potter-holics out there, feel free to leave a comment so that we can discuss our own theories!

And if you want more Harry Potter fix to tide you over until the next book or movie, I suggest you subscribe to Mugglecast. It's an amazing podcast and the hosts are just as obssessed [or even more! heck! they have a podcast!] as I am to discuss anything and everything HP. Subscription is absolutely free. You can set your iTunes to download the latest episodes for you. If you don't have iTunes, I think there are other programs you can use to get the episodes. Check Mugglenet for more details!

As I use to say:

Quietus.
Nox.

TIGERS VS EAGLES

The two thunder-like sound you might have heard yesterday afternoon probably was just me, screaming my lungs off while watching the first game of the UAAP Championship best-of-three Series. The first one was a roar of excitement after Allan Evangelista made that shot that put the UST Growling Tigers at the lead with 1 second to go. The second one, unfortunately, was a cry of disappointment after Doug Kramer’s undegoal stab that cinch the win for the Ateneo Blue Eagles.

Man, wasn’t that some game?!

Honestly, I’m not that sad about the loss. The game could have gone either way. The last play by Escalona and Kramer prove that Ateneo is the more experienced team. UST, despite their talent, still lacks the maturity on crucial end game scenarios. Hopefully, whatever the outcome of the series is, UST will learn a lot from their experience.

Another thing is, I can’t feel any bitter rivalry between Ateneo and my team. And that’s not exactly a bad thing. I think it’s a game played with mutual respect [I didn’t see it on TV, but I read that the Ateneo Blue Babble Battalion played UST’s “Go USTE!” drumbeat and the Yellow Jackets reciprocated with the “Go Ateneo” cheer. Wow! Is that awesome, or what?!] . I prayed for UST to make it to the Final Four and then to the championships, but I had no expectations at all. I don’t think I’m the only one who was proven wrong by the Tigers, I think others are not counting at all at UST to go this far, but they’ve clawed their way through, and they have earned respect. I had expected the first game to be a blow out, but it was excruciatingly close. UST came prepared, and I couldn’t ask for a more confident team to strut their stuffs on the hard court. That’s the right attitude guys!

I hope UST will win the second game, if only because its loyal followers and the viewers of the UAAP deserve to see another possible classic game [and I deserve to have another chance to watch the game live at the Araneta]. This early, I am extending my congratulations to both teams.

To the Ateneo Blue Eagles – you are a worthy adversary. I salute you.

And to the UST Growling Tigers – there’s no shame in your loss. Go USTe!

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inx's:

• All these years that I had watched basketball, I still ponder how is it that basketball players can make those hail mary shots while being double- or triple-teamed, and yet suck big time at the free throw line? [add to that my question on why a player never jumps when he’s taking a free throw shot. Honestly hindi ko alam kung kasama ba talaga sa rules ‘to.]

• yummm… Cyrus Baguio… I don’t need you to distract me from watching the Finals.

• Seeing Dennis Espino and Chris Cantonjos again was something. I can still recall their ’93 sweep! Please Tigers, ibalik niyo yung 4Peat era natin!!!

• Some of my friends were surprised to find out when I texted them that UST made it to the finals. Mga hindi kasi nanonood ng game! Hehehe... But I'm glad their support was there at this crucial stage. Although I would have preferred that I watch the game without the distraction of a text message asking what time the game would start!

• I am still bitter that I wasn’t able to watch the game at the Araneta. Pag umabot ng third game, I might transact with scalpers. I’d kill for a lower or upper box A ticket. Let’s get it onnn!!!